When to talk
Do
Have a one-on-one or family conversation at a time you both agree to talk.
Don’t
Bring it up right before or after school, or in the middle of a conflict.
For parents
How do I talk to my teen about IOP or PHP?
Guidance from our clinical team for parents who are getting ready to talk with their teen about PHP or IOP.
If your teen isn’t safe right now
Call or text 988
You don’t need to wait for a calm moment if you think your teen might hurt themselves. The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is free and open 24/7. If your teen is in immediate danger, call 911.
How to start the conversation
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Pick the right time.
Have the conversation when you and your teen have plenty of time to talk and neither of you feels rushed or stressed.
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Lead with what you have noticed, and stay nonjudgmental.
Describe the changes that led you to look into a higher level of care, without placing blame on your teen. Present treatment as support, not punishment.
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Listen, and validate their concerns.
Stepping into a higher level of care can feel intimidating. Your teen may have a lot of fears and questions.
Encourage your teen to take the first step and get an assessment to learn more. They can bring their concerns and questions to our staff during the assessment.
What to do and what to avoid
What to say
Do
Share descriptive statements of concern, like:
“I’ve noticed you aren’t spending as much time with your friends and are sleeping more. I’m worried you’re not feeling your best.”
Don’t
Use blaming or shaming statements, like:
“You never come out of your room to spend time with us, and all you do is sleep.”
Call our admissions team
Admissions can answer your questions about PHP and IOP and help you plan this conversation. You can call before your teen has agreed to an assessment.
